September Reset
On Reuniting with Loved Ones, & The Perils of Dating
☕️Tea Rec: London Fog with Vanilla Almond Creamer☕️
Hey friends,
Guess where I am? Ya girl is back in Atlanta for the weekend and I couldn’t be happier. I don’t know what it is about coming back to— actually before I finish that sentence, I do know. There’s something about coming back to the city and state I chose to move to six years ago, that centers me. It’s mostly due to the friendships and connections I’ve made over the years. But I’m also realizing one of the most annoying things about moving is having to go out and find new places to eat, hang out, or work ya know? When I go back to Atlanta, I know exactly where I want to go for whatever mood I’m in. It also helps that my sister is a voyager who will go out and discover new places as well lol
Reunited & It Feels So Good
I’ve always looked forward to hanging out with my sister and best friend. But there’s something extra special about it since my move to North Carolina. I’ve shared on other platforms that these past few weeks I’ve been a serious homebody. But the truth is after my quick trip to DC and Virginia Beach at the top of July, my birthday, and my trips to the lake and pool at the top of August, I’ve reverted to my old ways of isolation and hiding in my shell when feeling stressed or generally unhappy.
The thing is I don’t only disappear physically. I’ll also take forever to respond to text messages, and calls. In fact, sometimes social media’s my only proof of life. So when I spoke to them on separate occasions a couple of weeks ago, I broke down and told them how much I was missing them. But not only that, in my true avoidant nature, I realized that part of the reason I wasn’t as communicative is because I miss them and my old life. Which then led me to realize falling back into easy conversations over the phone instead of in person would drudge those feelings up and I just didn’t want to feel them.
All that to say, I’m excited to shed this homebody suit for a few days and turn up with my girls this weekend!
Dating? Not Demure, Mindful, or Cutesy
Before I jump into this, can I tell you I am incredibly over this trend. Unfortunately it’s also stuck in every crevice of my brain lol
While scrolling on IG this week, I came across a video from Thamarr, the content creator behind Musings of a Curvy Girl—who I’ve been following for some time, on dating that was relatable and hilarious.
I’ll include the video here, but the gist of it is essentially being interested in dating but then somewhat shutting the conversation down when a friend or family says they have someone they’d like you to meet. And if that isn’t the personification of my dating life these past few years lol
Here’s the thing, I am now in a space where I truly want to give dating a chance. However here are three key problems:
I’m a homebody which has only gotten worse since the start of the pandemic.
My standards are sky rocket high lol
Probably the most important; I don’t like meeting people through people, or on dating apps. I prefer and thrive in situations that happen organically.
So, what’s the problem? Well, number three and number one are in constant battle lol 🤺 I did tell y'all last week that I’m a bag of walking contradictions right? 🤣 But I’m pledging to actually give dating a TRUE shot during this last part of the year and guess who gets to (possibly) join in on the fun? If you pointed to yourself then, yes, congrats, you’re it lol
Also, wish me luck! Do you have any dating tips for me? Tell me all the things!
Thanks for reading this week’s newsletter and I’ll catch you in your inboxes soon!
x Kim D Laird